Engagement

So I decided to make a blog after one of my instructors went on and on about how it is a necessary skill in this technological age.  I thought do I want a blog about that course? NO....I'm more interested right now in getting married.  So here's the blog about my wedding trials and tribulations.

My boyfriend and I talked  about getting married for a while now.  We talked about April.   He wanted to have a big wedding but I was not interested in that.  However, I capitulated since it seems that everyone around me wanted me to have a traditional wedding.  So the summer passed and he hadn't proposed.  Fall started and he hadn't proposed, at this time I was getting a bit anxious.  I am in school right now and in a transitional period.  We live about 2 hours away from each other, and the idea was that I'd move in with him.  However, with no proposal 7 months before we wanted to get married I figured we were just a lot of talk and no action.  I was pretty upset... I was pretty much waiting until April to break up with him.  Does that sound cruel?  I just figure that we were wasting each others time.  We've been together for 4 years and if we aren't going to move in together then what's the point of all this.

I must also mention we both come from conservative families who don't believe in common law marriage.  Unfortunately!  I really don't know what's the big deal.  Anyways, I got in a huge fight with my boyfriend who then told me he was waiting for the winter to propose because he had concocted a simple and sweet way to propose.  So I was the douche bag.  That made me feel even better.  To top it, he didn't  propose.  Weeks passed by and nothing.  So, one day he asked if I wanted to go wine tasting at the end of November.  I said that I don't have the money since I'm in school right now.  He booked it anyways and paid for the entire thing.  I knew something was up.  He is never so decisive.  However, there had been so many times before that I thought that he was going to propose and he never had.  So I was a bit caustic about the whole situation.  Well he took me to our favourite winery, and we did a tour.  They left us alone for like 10 minutes, but nothing.  I didn't really think much...I was sure if he would propose he would do it while we were alone.  Anyways, as we walked back to the car he said "Do you know why I brought you here" ... with those romantic words he proposed.  In the background was all the staff from the winery. Apparently they had left us alone for him to propose but he didn't get the hint.  It was the nicest thing ever.  But the iorny, is that he didn't propose any earlier than he had planned and all my bitching (a.k.a. sharing my concerns) didn't speed him up at all.